The Power of “Feeling Felt!”

The Power of “Feeling Felt!”

This past week, I was in a session with a parent whose child (in their early 20s) is struggling with all that comes with humanhood. My goal was to highlight with this parent a way to gain connection rather than directing their child with “shoulds.” 

As parents, we all want to be there for our children, to support them, and to help them navigate their emotions and challenges. But sometimes, it’s not enough just to listen or offer advice. What our children truly need is to feel deeply understood and connected. This powerful concept is known as “feeling felt,” and Dr. Daniel Siegel coined the term.

So, What Does “Feeling Felt” Mean?

“Feeling felt” goes beyond simple empathy. It’s about truly tuning into your child’s emotional state, validating their feelings, and resonating with them on a deep emotional level. When your child experiences “feeling felt,” they don’t just know you understand them—they feel it.

Here are some ways to foster this powerful emotional connection with your child:

1) Practice deep listening by giving them your full attention.

2) Validate their emotions with acknowledgment and normalization of their experience.

3) Show emotional mirroring that is measured by using your tone of voice and body language.

4) Create a safe space for emotions to be shared and experiences to be experienced without judgment but with encouragement to share.

5) Be mindful, patient, and open with your thoughts

What Are The Benefits of “Feeling Felt?” What is the point?

When children feel felt, they experience a profound sense of connection and security. “Feeling Felt” has numerous benefits, including providing emotional security, improved parent-child communication at any age, building a stronger relationship, and fostering better emotional regulation for all. 

At the end of my session, it seemed the parent left “feeling felt.” I hoped this would carry over to their next exchange with their child! I will find out at our next session if they did their parenting homework. So, can you practice this concept for your child or loved ones today? 

 

Happy Parenting!

xoxo,

Dr. Marnee

The Importance of Treating Our Pets Well

The Importance of Treating Our Pets Well

Fun fact about me: give me kids or dogs (I am allergic to cats), and I will take great care of them- plants, well, let’s just say that I do not have a green thumb, lol. I have had dogs all of my life- labs or golden retrievers. We even had an indoor-outdoor cat named Stacey as a child. Currently, I have a labrador and a golden retriever, and I love my dogs! 

I believe that, as parents, we are responsible for instilling values of compassion, kindness, and empathy in our children. Did you know that one crucial aspect of this is teaching them to treat animals with love and respect? 

“We can tell how advanced a society is by how they treat their animals.” This quote, often attributed to Mahatma Gandhi, holds a profound truth. It speaks volumes about the character and compassion of a community. Our pets are more than just companions; they’re members of our families. Here are a few reasons why treating our pets well is essential for us humans:

1. Pets Teach Responsibility: Taking care of a pet requires commitment and responsibility. Children who learn to care for animals develop valuable life skills such as empathy, nurturing, and time management. Pets literally can’t eat or drink without us.

2. Pets Provide Unconditional Love: Pets offer us unwavering love and companionship, no matter what. (This statement is a bit of an exaggeration. My dogs have personalities of their own and can be provocative with intentions behind their actions. For example, stealing socks from the clean laundry basket and parading them in front of me for attention. Gotta love my lab and this happened today.) They comfort us in times of need and celebrate with us in moments of joy. In return, they deserve our love and care.

3. Pets Enhance Emotional Well-being: Studies have shown that pet ownership can have numerous benefits for mental health, including reducing stress, anxiety, and loneliness. They are good listeners too. By treating our pets well, we contribute to their happiness and well-being, as well as our own. 

4. Pets Deserve Respect: Every living creature deserves to be treated with dignity and respect. Our pets may not be able to speak for themselves, but they feel pain, fear, and joy just like we do. It’s our responsibility to ensure they live happy and fulfilling lives. 

As parents, we have the opportunity to lead by example and teach our children the importance of treating animals with kindness and compassion. By doing so, we not only create a better world for our furry friends but also for future human generations. Enjoy your pets- I do; they make me smile. 

 

xoxo,
Dr. Marnee
(Mom of 4- 2 humans & 2 dogs)

Today Kicks off Mental Health Awareness Month Here in the States

Today Kicks off Mental Health Awareness Month Here in the States

Join us, the Parents Living Learning Community, during Mental Health Awareness Month.  Understanding the mental health of high school and college-aged kids is crucial, and ParentsLLC is here to help make that journey easier and more supportive for you and your family. Here’s why you’ll want to sign up with ParentsLLC:

  1. Expert Guidance: Our experts specialize in child and adolescent psychology, education, and counseling. We provide personalized support and guidance to help you confidently navigate the challenges of your child’s mental health.
  2. Empowering Resources: ParentsLLC offers a wealth of resources, including workshops, articles, and counseling services, designed to empower you with the knowledge and tools you need to support your child’s well-being effectively.
  3. Stigma-Free Support: We believe in creating an environment where people can openly discuss mental health concerns without judgment. We aim to foster understanding and acceptance, encouraging families to seek help when needed.
  4. Early Intervention: By working with ParentsLLC, you’ll learn how to recognize early signs of mental health issues and access appropriate interventions. Our focus on early intervention can significantly impact your child’s long-term well-being.
  5. Collaborative Approach: We collaborate with parents to ensure that parents and their children receive support. Together, we can create a supportive environment that prioritizes mental wellness.

Signing up with ParentsLLC means joining a supportive community dedicated to helping parents like you navigate the complexities of raising healthy, resilient children. Let us be your partner in promoting your child’s mental health and well-being. Together, we can make a positive difference in your family’s journey.

xo,
Dr. Marnee & Tamar