I recently met a woman, my senior, who had the most beautiful color eyes- like the color of the ocean close to the beach’s shoreline. I said to her: “You must be sick of people telling you how beautiful your eyes are.” She responded: “These old eyes haven’t been complimented in a long time. Thank you.”  

Really- that is such a shame! In a world often filled with criticism and negativity, it’s easy to overlook the impact a simple compliment can have. Yet, beneath its seemingly small gesture lies a tremendous power to uplift spirits, foster connection, and ignite positivity. 

Just so you know, a compliment is more than just kind words; it’s a validation of someone’s efforts, talents, attributes, or qualities. Whether acknowledging a job well done, praising someone’s creativity, or simply admiring their character, a genuine compliment can brighten someone’s day in ways we may not fully realize. The same can be said for complimenting someone’s physical features or style.  

Consider the times when you’ve received a compliment. It likely brought a smile to your face, boosted your confidence, put a pep in your step, and made you feel appreciated. Such positive reinforcement feels good. Moreover, compliments hold the power to strengthen relationships. Whether it’s between friends, family members, colleagues, or strangers, a sincere compliment can bridge gaps and create a sense of warmth and camaraderie. 

But perhaps the most remarkable aspect of compliments is their ripple effect. When we offer genuine praise to others, it not only brightens their day but also inspires them to spread kindness to others. It’s a beautiful cycle of positivity that has the potential to create a ripple effect far beyond our initial interaction, leaving a lasting impression on the world around us.

In a society where negativity often dominates headlines and social media feeds, it’s crucial to recognize and harness the power of a compliment. Whether it’s a few words of appreciation or a heartfelt acknowledgment, never underestimate the impact you can have on someone’s life simply by offering a genuine compliment. You have the power to make a difference.

So, join me, and let’s make it a habit to spread kindness wherever we go. Whether it’s a child’s painting, your teen’s school project, a coworker’s new haircut, a friend’s recent accomplishment, or a stranger’s infectious smile or how well the color of their dress looks on them, let’s take a moment to lift others up with the power of a compliment. After all, a little bit of kindness goes a long way in a world that can sometimes feel heavy.

Have a good week.

Dr. Marnee