I can’t stand it when I hear “You get what you get and you don’t get upset.” Really, why? Why can’t we get upset? What is wrong with feeling disappointment?
Stay with me and I will explain why I feel the way I do about this very used phrase.
In a world that often seems unpredictable and uncontrollable, the phrase “You get what you get and you don’t get upset” may sound like a simple way to manage life’s disappointments. However, beneath its seemingly harmless exterior lies a message that can be detrimental to the development of crucial emotional and coping skills, particularly in children and adolescents. This phrase implies that complaining or expressing dissatisfaction is pointless, and one should learn to accept the outcomes with grace. While teaching resilience is very important, this phrase oversimplifies the complex emotional experience connected with disappointment. It also fails to acknowledge the significance of expressing one’s feelings!
Disappointment is a natural and inevitable part of life. Learning how to manage it is a crucial skill for personal growth!!!!!
I firmly believe that emotions are not nuisances to be dismissed; they are signals that provide valuable information about our needs, desires, and boundaries. By discouraging the expression of disappointment, we risk stunting emotional growth and hindering the ability to communicate effectively.
A more constructive approach to disappointment involves acknowledging and validating emotions while also fostering resilience. Encouraging individuals to express their feelings, communicate their needs, and work towards positive change fosters emotional intelligence and empowers them to navigate life’s challenges effectively. And YES, sometimes we don’t get what we want and we get upset.
Ok, I will give it to you… that the intent behind “You get what you get and you don’t get upset” may be to instill resilience, it actually sends the wrong message about managing disappointment. I believe a healthier approach involves embracing emotions, fostering resilience, and encouraging individuals to advocate for themselves. 🌈✨